self-concept and its importance
The self-esteem is a feeling of appreciation and acceptance of one's own way of being that develops from childhood, from the child's experiences and their interactions with others.
dismiss himself or parts of oneself that produces a huge pain hurts us emotionally. The way one is perceived and valued in itself can change, and healing old wounds caused by self-denial. This change is not always is easy. Self esteem is not fixed or rigid state, but changes in relation to the experiences and feelings.
Self-esteem is essential for emotional survival, without a dose of self-esteem, life can be extremely painful, making it impossible to satisfy many basic needs.
We can not truly love others when we do not like ourselves
and even hate us. (Barksdale, 1991).
Adolescence in a phase of dramatic changes in all aspects of the individual's life, becomes a very important stage in the development of self-esteem, although one must not lose sight that this development begins almost from birth. Self-esteem is
:
- How warm and we really love ourselves, based on our individual sense of worth and importance.
- A feeling that starts in childhood and is continually reinforced by others.
- unconditional acceptance of ourselves as innately valuable and important, despite mistakes, defeats and failures.
- A feeling that affects our perception of the environment, our emotional reactions, our moods, our attitudes and our relationships with others.
Self-esteem is NOT:
- Love yourself in a selfish sense, self-praise and boasting are symptoms of low self-esteem because if indeed we accept and I will appreciate our individual worth and importance, we would not need to show off to impress others with our abilities and possessions.
- An inventory of our talents and intellectual abilities in the eyes of others we can become important and successful and still have low self-esteem.
- Not based on an intellectual assessment of our character, personality and achievements, but a deep feeling and usually hidden, since most people are not aware of how they feel about themselves.
Conceptualization and characterization Self-esteem.
Self-esteem is a powerful force within each one, involves much more than that innate sense of self worth, which is our birthright, is the experience of being fit for life and for the purposes of this . Comprising:
1. appreciation and assessment that we have the people if it is to see oneself with positive characteristics.
2. confidence in our ability to think and face the challenges life presents.
3. the right to be happy, to be worthy and to enjoy the fruits of our efforts.
"auto" = by itself, the self and "estimates" = consideration of appreciation. "All our actions are designed to feel good about ourselves. "
Basic conditions of self-esteem.
Self-esteem is achieved by:
1. The development of a sense of belonging.
Based on family. is: the person of integrity a particular social group. Depending on what kind of family we have and we will develop the membership
2. The development of a sense of uniqueness.
Each person is unique, has its own rules of life and feelings so it is necessary that each us to discover and appreciate what we value, that way we assess others.
3.The development of a sense of power.
all want to achieve certain goals in life, these are achieved according to the potential within each of us and the effort. 4.The
model development.
may at any time of life is so important for the child to have benchmarks or models who imitate such examples is the stage of adolescence. These models provide patterns of conduct which interjects the young man in her life, which help to form their own scale of values, goals and values \u200b\u200bneeded in the process of consolidating their identity.
Consequences of a negative self-esteem. Result
a person who does not love likewise, is insecure, incompetent and confrontational. Not feeling satisfied with herself, always tip the defeatism and negativity in everything we undertake, this means that the potentials with which it is born can be increased. If we promote mediocrity and failure and dependency, we adults with feelings of inferiority, low resistance to frustration, unable and unsuccessful. (Self-esteem consists of two different social psychological processes: the self-assessment and self evaluation)
Sexism and self esteem.
Sexism: judge's own sex as superior. Sexism may seriously harm the self esteem.
A powerful human need
Self-esteem is a very important need for the human being is basic and makes a vital contribution to the process of life is essential for normal development and healthy, has survival value.
Not having a psychological self-esteem hinders our growth, when you have acts as the immune system of consciousness, providing resistance, strength and capacity for regeneration. When low, decreases our resistance to the adversities of life.
Self-efficacy and Autodignidad.
Self-esteem has two interrelated aspects:
1. A sense of efficacy (efficacy)
2. A sense personal merit (autodignidad)
Self-efficacy: confidence in the functioning of my mind, ability to think, in the processes by which I judge, choose, decide, confidence, ability to understand the facts of reality that fall within the scope of my interests and needs, knowing self-confidence.
Autodignidad: up my courage, an affirmative attitude towards me right to live and = D. Self-efficacy and Autodignidad
are the dual pillars of self esteem. The lack of any of them greatly affects they represent the essence of self-esteem.
Development of self-esteem.
1.Influencia of parents
In early parenting style of the parents determines the initial formation of self-esteem, so that, depending on how parents relate to the child and will develop a high or low self-esteem. Parents who accept their children, value, have confidence in him and his abilities, have appropriate expectations, discipline with reasonable and fair rules, and we express love and respect in your child foster positive self-esteem, on the contrary, parents do not value their children, they do not trust them, think they can not do well and therefore the parents do for them that regulate the use of force and did not express love and respect, promote in their children a negative self
addition, parents serve as models for the child, are the mirror which shows this new being who he is.
Children are constantly learning from their parents, so they also learn to value or rejected. Therefore, one of the best ways to acquire a good self-esteem is having parents with good self-esteem as they serve as examples of self-acceptance and authors. As children grow up with other models are caregivers, teachers, friends, etc. that also influence their self-esteem. Although the models or mirrors the greatest influence are the parents.
Self-esteem is not rigid or fixed but changes as we grow it is influenced by two things:
The circumstances or our activities. Some circumstances strengthen our self-esteem, while others damaged.
ideas or thoughts you have about the facts, this is very important because sometimes we can not change the facts but we can control our interpretation, and this interpretation damaged or strengthen our self-esteem.
2.Influencia simultaneous peer.
Depending on what the partner will think of the child and self-image and self esteem that you have of yourself as compared with peers.
During the school years the child learns to evaluate more precisely increasing their capabilities, hence the importance of childhood in the lives of people they are like sponges they absorb everything.
3.Influencia of society.
Self-esteem is learned and a 1 in the family, teaches us who we are, what they think my teammates with me, will complement the self-esteem that I formed in my family, but as the child grows, groups you belong to enlarge, allowing you to develop social knowledge, in which can form a more accurate picture of the complex intellectual and personal physical characteristics of other people and also those of the same
Therefore, society shapes our ability to give an appreciation, the value we deserve, so it is important to receive and live in a society rewarding and reinforcing to our needs.
How are people with high self-esteem?
1. They feel good about themselves.
2. They know what they can do well and can improve
3. Express their opinion and not afraid to speak.
4. Identify and express their emotions.
5. Share.
6. Participate in activities that develop in their place of study or work.
7. They use themselves in situations of life, which involves giving and asking for support.
8. They like challenges and are not afraid
9. Consider the other, a sense of help and are willing to collaborate with others.
10. They are creative and original, invent things, are interested in performing unfamiliar tasks, learn new activities.
11. Strive to achieve what they want.
12. Enjoy the fun things of life, both his own and that of others.
How are people with low self esteem?
1. They think they can not, they know nothing. They do not value their talents.
2. They are undecided because they have exaggerated fear of being wrong.
3. They fear the new and avoid the risks
4. They are very anxious and nervous, leading them to avoid situations that give
anxiety and fear. Are passive.
5. Are isolated and have almost no friends, and do not share.
6. Avoid participating in activities conducted in your school or work.
7. Afraid to speak.
8. Depend on others to do their homework or doing any activity.
9. Give up before any activity
10. Because they feel they have no value, do not accept criticism.
11. They are not satisfied with themselves, they think they do not do anything right.
12. Not aware of their emotions so that they can not express.
WHY IS IT IMPORTANT TO DEVELOP A HIGH SELF-ESTEEM IN CHILDREN AND YOUNG PEOPLE?
It helps to learning: can learn more easily and to do so with confidence and enthusiasm.
It helps to overcome personal difficulties, failures and personal problems will not stop development experiences and training of children and youth. Because
based accountability: those who are positive undertake more easily and develop a broader sense of responsibility in their activities. Because
supports creativity, high self-esteem helps you be more inventive, original ideas and give be more creative in everything he does. Because
determines personal autonomy: the child with high self-esteem is independent in choosing goals, to decide what conduct and what activity to do.
Because it allows healthy social relationships: children who are accepted and believe they are more inclined to treat others with respect, good will and justice. Because
says plans for the future of the person: eigenvalue when the child grows their expectations for better performance, aspiring to higher goals, which searches according to their capacity.
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